screen top
LCARS
44dfeb6
101
7109
1966
1222
2020
1444
102
1103
1935
1940
708
M113
1956
1209
102
8102
1987
044
0051
607
1976
1031
1984
1954
1103
415
1045
1864
103
714
1993
0222
052
1968
2450
746
56
47
716
8719
417
602
104
6104
1995
322
90
1931
1701
51
29
218
908
2114
85
3504
105
08
2001
713
079
1940
LV
426
105
10
1206
1979
402
795
106
31
2017
429
65
871
1031
541
656
764
88
001
27
05
POSTED
2020-04-07
UPDATED
2022-11-22
EDIT
REPORT
07-081940
08-47148
09-081966
10-31
▲

How can an understanding and policy of openness lead to a reduction in both susceptibility to being hurt and also the need to overcome fear to be raw and authentic?

This page is a stub, created on 2020-04-07 (last updated on 2022-11-22). Its contents are notes on the issues and angles I want to address about this topic.

I want to write a few things about the distinction between what I call "technical vulnerability" (which is actually risking pain by equipping others with the tools to harm you through your own openness and authenticity) and the feeling of vulnerability (which is about the feeling of fear and requiring courage to be open, raw, and authentic). (related Facebook post from 2019-06-07)

An additional thing to explore is how a policy of openness and authenticity that's grounded in a deep understanding of its overall and long-term benefits leads not only to the reduction of fear and the need of courage to be "vulnerable" (this is maybe what Brené Brown means when she describes "shame resilience"), but an actual reduction in the "technical vulnerability" of being hurt by others, since one's emotional calibration becomes less sensitive to others' intentional or unintentional weaponization of openness.

Maybe this needs to go into a different post, but I want to address the issue of when openness and transparency masquerade as vulnerability (not "technical vulnerability", but the sense in which vulnerability is a means of deep connection between people).

Other points to explore:

  • connection to privacy
  • connection to "masculinity"
  • repression versus vulnerability
  • Derek Hart Facebook Post
    • Vulnerability is imperfection.
    • Vulnerability is having a lack of confidence on purpose.
    • Vulnerability is stumbling on your words.
    • Vulnerability is beginning a sentence before you know the end of the sentence.
    • Vulnerability is slowly observing what’s happening with yourself, and stating it without blame.
    • Vulnerability is telling another person how they’ve hurt you, with such gentleness, that it doesn't repel them, but brings them towards you.